Troubled By Office Politics? By Sri Sri Ravi Shankar

Vishal Chauhan, 23/11/2018
Troubled By Office Politics? By Sri Sri Ravi Shankar

Sri Sri Ravi Shankar shares his thoughts on how to deal withworkplace politics and improve personal relationships.


How can one deal with power games at the workplace?

 
Never shy away from politics. Wherever there are people, there is politics. From small villages to global institutions, you will see politics everywhere. So what? Let it be! Often people are resistant to politics. Whatever the situation, the more you resist, the more it will persist. Your opinions change, your ideas change, your behavior changes, doesn’t it? Are you pleasant all the time with everybody? No. When you are pleasant with some people at some time and not with others, people may think you are playing politics, too.
 
First of all, stop labeling situations, because that starts creating an animosity within you and you want to run away.
 
Whenever you think people are playing politics, a resistance comes up from within and it colors your perception and your vision and then you get entangled in more and more unpleasant situations.
 

I would suggest that you just accept it. There is a beautiful verse in Kannada by a saint: “If you make a house by the ocean, and you complain about waves, what can I tell you? If you make a house right in the middle of the city and then say, there is too much noise, what can I tell you? You are reluctant to wind and you have built your house on top of a hill, what can I tell you? You are scared of animals and you have chosen to live deep in the forest, what can I tell you?” Similarly, if you complain about criticism, living in the world, what can I tell you?


 
What do you mean by politics? It is all about people’s likes and dislikes. If they dislike you, they talk about that to other people. When you dislike somebody, don’t you talk about that to others? You air your opinion about other people all the time. Is that not politics? Come on, don’t shy away from politics! That is how people are. Wherever you go, if you are joyful and a source of enthusiasm, you are an inspiration. You will uplift the spirit in any place. You can do that. Just be unmindful of anyone’s comment. Comments are like bubbles on the surface of water. People say something today and the complete opposite tomorrow.
 
Today they criticize you, tomorrow they praise you. All these things are normal in life. If you keep running away from situations, those situations will chase you wherever you go. You will have to face them anyway; why not face them with a big smile.
 

How do I know if I am in the right relationship or a person is right for me?

 
You are right for your partner when you can adjust. Relationship means adjustment. You give what you can, to your partner and wait for them to give it back to you. If you are demanding from the other person all the time, the relationship is not going to last long. Love is always about giving. Know that you have come in this world only to give love and not demand love from anybody.
 

‘Demand’ and ‘Blame’ destroy relationships.

 
How would you feel if someone doubts your love for them, and you have to make an extra effort to make them believe that you love them? Is it not a burden?
 
Learn to praise your partner and salvage a situation, instead of blaming and finding fault. Uplifting your partner should be your commitment. Then you are the right person for anybody, and everybody will love you when you don’t hurt them intentionally.
 

Be open to correction and changes, and have the patience to listen the criticism.

 
See your partner beyond his words and actions. When someone comes home after a long tiring day at work, it is normal for them to feel exhausted and frustrated. You should understand their situation and give them the freedom to express their genuine feelings of frustration and anger. When someone is in labor pain, and if you say, ‘Don’t deliver, keep it, keep it, keep the baby inside’, what can they do? How long can they keep it inside? Somewhere they have to explode. You should allow them to express and let go of all their stresses that they have carried the whole day. Understand why your partner is upset or unhappy. Then your relationship will work.
 
If you understand, you will allow them to tell you everything that happened and you can help them. But if you expect them not to say anything and be nice to you 24/7 while you find fault with them all the time, then relationships don’t work.

Courtesy: wisdom.srisriravishankar.org


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