Office Romance Keeping Your Hopes Alive? Here Are 8 Simple Rules For Dating A Co-Worker

Deepak, 26/09/2017

Office romances are becoming a popular fad and a lot of people are pairing up at work because it's convenient to share the same space and work on projects together, while also getting to know the other person intimately, since so much time is spent together. More than convenience, the young urban India spends a lot of hours at work since their work demands them to do so. Out of 24 hours, almost 12-16 are spent at office. So in a way it's inevitable to not get to know someone closely and eventually fall in love with them.

India Today, with the help of Monster India conducted an online survey to see how people feel about office romance. “Of the 6,559 respondents polled, a high 35 per cent (or 2,321), admitted to currently having or being open to an office romance. What stands out in the survey is that 51 per cent of those open to romance were married executives. Also 55 per cent of them would do it just to spice up their long and stressful work hours.”  Read more hereAccording to the survey, women joining the workforce have made a big impact on office romances off late and most of the affairs flourish between equal co-workers or boss and employee.

We aren't really relaying information or statistics about office romances in India here. We firmly believe it's almost treading on egg shells and can go horribly wrong for you and your co-workers if not handled well. Like have you ever heard the saying ‘don't shit where you eat'?

So the next time you're crushing on your colleague  and have major butterflies in your stomach when you cross their cubicle or work station, either limit your crush to just a crush or act on it if you wish to but keep these things in mind, if you pro-actively decide to go ahead with a relationship with them!

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Office Romance Keeping Your Hopes Alive? Here Are 8 Simple Rules For Dating A Co-Worker
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If you want to go ahead and date your co-worker first make sure he or she is into you as well (duh!). Before spilling the beans about your interest to your other co-workers, gauge your office crush's gestures and signs. Don't be advertent about these things because your reputation is at stake here. So if you do like them, be a bit more fastidious about your actions. If things do work out it would be best if you keep things under wraps for a bit, before everyone finds out. Make sure first if this is the person you want to spend all your time with, during office hours and even after.

People may also think it's a little inappropriate to romance a colleague or find your actions a bit obnoxious. If you're the type to not care much about what people think at work and otherwise then you can be as open as you want about your affair.

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There is a very thin line between staying professional and getting personal when you're dating someone from work. So if you want people to take you seriously and respect your boundaries, you need to define them first with your partner at work. Have a plan on how to ease into normalcy after you start seeing each other at work. You both dedicatedly need to have a conversation about this and stick to the decision you make. As long as the dynamic doesn't hamper the professional decorum between you and your partner at work, it's all good.
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No matter how intense or how much in love you are with your work spouse, always maintain a professional boundary with them. Try and not be all over each other at work or show physical affection in an office setting. If your partner is your junior, then create a healthy balance of being a boss and a partner separately. In a non-professional setting, even with your colleagues around it's completely alright to be however you wish to with your partner but inside office premises maintain professional stealth.
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Obviously you want to communicate as much as you can with your partner in office. The rush of seeing them around makes you want to talk to them even more. You can communicate as much as you like through personal e-mails and other forms of communication but don't interact with them through official e-mail ids or official mobile numbers. The communication may backfire and may go to Guptaji from accounting instead. It's safe to be as professional as you can.

So the next time you want to share a kinky meme or a pain inflicting selfie of yourself with your partner, do it through a personal mode of communication.

An office relationship can also be a social and emotional minefield. You're constantly exposing your vulnerability at work, in front of your partner and maybe your colleagues and you have to be mindful where to be absolutely professional and where to ease up. Office romances are inevitable at times and we're not against them! Not one bit.

If you've fallen in love with someone with the same qualities and interests as you, there isn't anything better! So don't make a concerted effort to fight it at any cost. Just follow these 8 simple rules and be wary of the risks.

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Not just woes but any anecdote or incident you might have had with your partner from work should be kept as much at bay as possible. Unless you're really close to some colleagues and they want to know your dynamic with the other person, then it's your call. You don't want your little office affair becoming a smoke break gossip session, do you?
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If you both are quarrelling over a matter don't let it seep through office hours. You don't want people noticing personal quarrels between the two of you. If you're upset about some personal issue you're facing with work bae, then leave that issue for later and put your best professional game face on. If you can't contain it then maybe head out of office for a bit and talk about it but if you can avoid being distracted at work, with the person you work with, and save all intense conversations for later, then it's the best thing to do.
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This is a cardinal rule for people working together and being in a relationship.  If you both are working on an equal footing and are colleagues, there is no room for competition and jealousy. You both are probably good at what you do and have your own weaknesses and strengths. No one will be more aware about your strengths and weakness than your work spouse. The best thing to do here is support and challenge each other in a healthy way. Competition only breeds envy and unhealthy ways of putting each other down. You should be encouraging of each others work and help one another grow.
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If things are going in an unfavourable direction relationshipwise, for both of you, then talk about it like adults. You need to figure how to be around each other in the same space even when you're not together. Seeing each other everyday will be emotionally taxing, so you need to gear up for that. If you don't prepare yourself mentally for the same or talk about it with your SO beforehand, you may face a challenging situation emotionally at work. This can keep you heavily distracted and take your focus away from professional things and involve your colleagues in ways they don't want to be involved.

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